Spread The Better

This is the hardest part about loss, all the small routines we shared with the person we lost now also must go. All those random small conversations about nothing, little updates, errand runs, are unfortunately behind you now. I feel as though these are the hardest moments. You’ll see something that made you laugh,made you mad, reminded you of them and you’ll want to tell them but then the somber remembrance kicks in that you can’t.

Fortunately for us, time is on our side during this. While each day might feel like a slow torture, your brain is slowly rewiring itself to no longer go down those pathways. It is going to feel as if your mind can’t escape the thought of them but your brain is working behind the scenes to adjust and compensate for this new normal. 

While this all sounds well and good, everything is very much “not good” to you. you’re very much grieving And that’s okay. You have to feel these feelings, you have to go through these moments in order to reach the acceptance stage. If we were to theoretically skip this stage, where would that get us? We would be missing out on all the physical and mental improvements we decided to make, we would be missing out on the soul searching we are doing, we would never get this newfound perspective and enlightenment on our own thoughts and feelings. It would be a lesson without the learning which doesn’t justify the attendance to that lesson.

I know it’s hard, I know you’re reeling in this earthquake of a shake up, but all we truly have in these moments is the ability to reach out to friends, improve our health, start that new hobby, and try to view life through this new enhanced perspective.